I got married in 2018,since then I have been battling with some unimaginable experiences with my wife even when I thought I married to a religious lady.
To cut the story short,
Prior to our marriage, things was not so good enough for me but because of age consideration of both of us we decided to wed with the help of our families.
The first thing that happened which caught me thinking afterward was that during our make up to wedding,my wife insisted that she’s receiving 50k dowry which she knew I wouldn’t be able to get it just shortly before the wedding. I told her that there is no way I could afford it then that she should reduce it may be to 20k, she said I should not worry that things will be sorted out. A day to the wedding she told me that when it’s segment for dowry collection that she would pronounce that she had collected it. I said no problem. Since then I have not been able to pay it because she wants full cash. Now, any slide misunderstanding she refers to it.
Secondly, immediately after the marriage,I was left with 60k which I thought we would manage to get a room and a parlour apartment for a start, just to do according to my pocket in my present rent house. But my wife insisted that we should let 2 bedroom flat at 100k but knowing fully that my source of income would not maintain it couple with other obligations that I would be discharging. She said, she would lend me 40k.
Thank God I was able to pay her the money. But still thinking over wasteful of almost 50k,while 150k can secure a land for bulding house in my area.
Thirdly, few months after our marriage. We were having misunderstanding and I carelessly said if the marriage can not work it better we go our separate ways, my wife holds on this statement and continue saying that she just need me to say it twice more and the marriage is over.
But I used to think over all these with other ones that I cant write, then, I ask myself if truly she loves me or may be am with wrong person.
What is your thought about this?